Buy-outs are one of the most fun wedding traditions that are cultivated especially in Silesia. Although it used to apply exclusively to the bride, today it is a pleasure to redeem the groom as well. Money, alcohol or other prepossessing items are merely an inspiration for fun, which is limited only by our own imagination. So get to work! Get your purses ready!
What does the bride's redemption look like?
Asking for the bride's hand is just the beginning of the adventure called marriage. It used to be that the bridegroom had to go to great lengths to get the family to agree to give away their most precious treasure - a beloved daughter, sister or granddaughter. The custom of bringing a dowry was very lively and had little to do with casual fun. Nowadays, the matter with a symbolic dowry is much simpler and more pleasant for both parties. The old tradition, which was rigid and taken very seriously, is only meant to inspire fun, the aim of which is above all to reduce tension and integrate the guests just before the solemn wedding ceremony.
What tricks can the groom use to successfully buy his beloved out of the family's hands? Will the family resist at their side and bargain hard, or will they relent and pay the groom themselves for the promise of marriage? There are no ready-made scenarios here, as the essence of Redemption is total spontaneity.
As a rule, the bride's redemption is organised at her family home. Bridesmaids, witnesses, friends and family of the bride, present the bridegroom with specific conditions, which are most often the giving of small, symbolic gifts to all those defending access to the bride.
Settlement can be made in money, jewellery, alcohol or sweets. However, that is not all. The bridegroom must solemnly declare and sign an appropriate 'document' in which he commits himself to ensuring a happy and good life for his bride.
Gateway to the heart... of the bride's family
The most important symbol of redemption is the so-called gate, which is symbolically set up by family members and guests on the bride's side. It can be symbolic in nature. Most often it is simply formed by people defending access to the bride and groom, whose only weapon is a simple string. However, it is worth going a step further and preparing a creative 'gate'. It can be created from painted cardboard boxes, wooden planks or other objects specific to a particular family.
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Buy-outs are not a rigid procedure, but an engaging and entertaining process of bargaining within a broadly defined bidding process. It is worth preparing funny texts and witty answers to any questions that arise. It is worth letting go of all inhibitions and letting yourself be completely carried away by the spontaneous event. Because it's all about total freedom and complete relaxation. The bride's redemption can be a great opportunity to show the true, hitherto hidden face of the groom and his sense of humour. Instead of traditional gifts, you can prepare a whole host of funny gadgets that are sure to surprise the bride's family and provoke salvos of laughter.
It's a great idea to set up a few gates along the way to the wedding celebrations, in unexpected places for the groom. This will force him to step into higher levels of creative invention and really do a lot of combining to really earn the bride's hand.
Groom's redemption
The issue of the bride and groom's buyout is much simpler. As a rule, the transaction ends with the transfer of the appropriate amount of alcohol. It often takes place without the presence of the groom. Only the guests and family of the bride, together with the witness and family of the groom, take part in the fun and relaxed redemption ceremony.
The bride and groom's redemption is the perfect opportunity to integrate the two families even before the official wedding ceremony. Nothing brings people together like a casual party. For the occasion of the redemption, ready-made scenario games can be prepared, centred around specific themes, e.g. the Mafia, the Wild West or popular series or cult films. Sometimes it's the redemption atmosphere that sets the tone for further fun in the wedding hall, so it's really worth making the effort and coming up with something really spectacular.
